In the year 2014, sexism in the Western
world is still very much alive and kicking. Be it in the context of
professional or family life, our societies still have a long way to go before
achieving gender equality. During the last few decades though, it is undeniable
that there has been progress. Nowadays people would generally be more reluctant
to crack a sexist joke or to engage in discriminating behaviour in the
workplace. But the ugly truth is that it is impossible to eradicate centuries
of oppression and sexual discrimination from the common subconscious in a few
years’ time. Deep-rooted prejudices always find the way to re-surface.
A place that provides for plenty of fertile
ground to the re-surfacing of such deep-rooted prejudices is the world of sport.
Almost two years ago I decided to make a year-long wish come true and joined a
female soccer team. My experience in this one-year and a half has been telling
of the level of sexism that still exists in our society.
My team participates in two different
leagues: a regional league, competing
against other female teams and a mixed league inside our workplace, a European
organization. In the regional league, as is normally expected in a Northern
European country, it is considered socially acceptable and unsurprising for
women to be playing football. Most of our opponents have been practicing the
sport since a very young age. The only discrimination one could fathom would be
a social discrimination, with kids of higher social status opting for hockey,
leaving football for the less well-off and more street-smart. But that’s a different
story.
Things change considerately when it comes
to the mixed league. “Mixed” though
would be an overhyped term: the league is absolutely male-dominated. Women
started joining some of the teams some years ago and it was five years ago that
the first exclusively female team was formed: the one I have joined. Given the
fact that the majority of our opponents are educated male adults, one would
expect a behaviour that respects women and considers them equal as fellow sportswomen.
One would expect fair play to apply, taking into account the differences in
biology, stamina and years of experience in the sport. This is indeed the case
for many of our opponents, including our coaches. Nevertheless there is an
equal if not larger number of opponents that do not respect these principles at
all.
There are various prejudiced approaches
towards a female football team and I have experienced them all. One of the most
common instances is paternalization. There are plenty of men out there willing
to show us “how it’s done”. One would
get the impression that there are as many football coaches as there are
opponents. The prejudice resurfacing here pushes them subconsciously to view women
as children that need guidance. But trying to transmit to us their wisdom after
years of experience on the pitch, they tend to forget something important:
nobody asked for this piece of advice.
You also get plenty of “fake kindness”. This kind of “chivalry” is manifest when your opponent
makes room so that you can score a goal ridiculously easily. Or, after he has
scored his zillionth goal against your team, violating any notion of fair play,
turns to you and sincerely apologizes. I wouldn’t go as far as calling this
behaviour an attempt of denigration of my intelligence and capabilities; nevertheless
it is definitely telling of a kind of person brought up based on an oxymoron:
you always have to be respectful and gallant towards women, but of course that
doesn’t mean they are your equals.
Another approach is downright irony. Instances
of opponents smirking throughout the match or stultifying our complaints by
laughing at them are not so rare as one would think. Here it is not only about
sexist prejudice; it is about persons lacking any decency. These people would
probably behave the same way towards male opponents that would happen to be
weaker than them.
The list could go on and on but my
bewilderment would remain the same: how outrageous and deeply disappointing is
it that highly educated friends and colleagues succumb to offending
simplifications and prejudice? I have no background in psychology in order to
assess to what extent one’s upbringing influences one’s future prejudices, but what
I know for sure is that educated adults ought to do their best to apply their
critical thinking on everything they have learnt to take for granted.
Unfortunately, when the feet get kicking, it’s usually all about the balls; not
the brain.
And why are all the above-mentioned
behaviours a paradox? I will give you a striking example: in Europe, the public
is hardly aware of any female football players. In most European countries,
girls would very rarely to never be encouraged to join a football team, while
on the other hand they are strongly encouraged to join volleyball or basketball
teams. On the other hand, in the United States, football -or soccer- is socially
labelled as a “female” sport; a sport
mostly practiced by kids and women, in contrast to the male-dominated American
football. The US national female soccer team has won two World Cups and four
Olympic Gold medals in the last twenty years. How is it then that educated European
men, who travel often and socialize frequently with people from around the
globe, cannot see the paradox?
There is no doubt that the position of
women in the Western world has improved exponentially in the last few decades.
There is almost no profession, no matter how male-dominated, wherein women have
not found their way. Many studies have explored the sense of anxiety before the
unknown and the perplexity that this change in social roles has caused to men.
In Europe, football is definitely one of the last “fortresses” of manhood, inside which men love to devise war-like
strategies and congregate in tactical formation in order to face the “enemy.” Women are still seen as the
intruders, people that, even if they can be allowed to join the “fraternity”, still cannot be taken very
seriously.
But maybe the future is not so gloomy. The
recent examples of Michael Sam and Jason Collins, the first two openly gay NFL
and NBA players respectively, give us reason to believe that in the future,
sports will cease being an arena for competing testosterone-levels. The road is
still long and winding as far as gender equality and sexual orientation issues
are concerned, even in the Western world. But let’s not forget that it was as
early as 396 BC that Cynisca from Sparta, became the first woman in history to
win at the Olympic Games. Let’s start from raising the next generation of boys
and girls with respect towards each other.






